Hi PaddyI know this premie, and indeed have had an email thread with him privately (under his real name) discussing these issues.
But I respect the decision of anyone, premie or ex, who wants to remain anonymous for whatever reason (unless they are in any sense a 'public' figure, which this guy clearly is not). So I leave it for him to divulge his real name if he wishes.
My only observation to him, and to any other premies reading here, is to note that as far as I can remember, no single premie posting here has ever done so under their real name. One can only speculate as to why.
While I respect people's wishes to remain anonymous, I cannot help feeling that it does dilute their message a little.
-- Mike