|To everyone who offered responses and support here, thank you so much. I was hoping to go through and reply to each one individually - it has been school holidays and a host of activities kept me from being able to. When there is so much wisdom, detail and understanding it's almost overwhelming to reply, I can't find the words. I just want you to know how much I appreciate the ones you have shared with me...I have been reading them over and digesting slowly. It is a process, as all of you of course, know. I will be posting here again soon, so grateful to John and all of you.