Nor I yours I am sure.

I know someone who has a son who is a father at 15 by an 17 year old girl. There I clearly would not say it is abuse. But traumatic for the rest of his life and hers. And somehow I do blame her in a different way than I would were the genders reversed. What if she were 24?  I know I do think like a mother, and a nurse, and when a much older person is with a teen, no matter the genders, issues like sexually transmitted infections and pregnancy seem to be more the fault of the adult in the situation. Leave it to me to throw cold water on the scenario.