The ex-premies you target, and I and others, have been communicating with premies on the internet for several years. Yes, sometimes an ex-premie has expressed their feelings a little strongly, but that is rare. Mostly, the communications have been exactly as you suggest - ex-premies do try to communicate with premies "with a modicum of respect for each others' differences". Show me some evidence that that is not true, and while you're doing that, show me some evidence that you have tried to communicate with premies more sensitively than others.

If you don't like "confronting wrong thinking" then how about "confronting lies"?