Jim, What I meant by 'non-judgemental' was to be accepting and tolerant of the differences (different ideologies maybe, for example) between myself and my friends. Possibly 'non-judgemental' is too obscure a word, I was using it in a more general sense. We can state our cases and we can move on. I'm not going to talk about it endlessly, because we talk about far more interesting things than M&K (believe me, especially my girl friends!). I don't raise the subject, and they don't bring it up either.Of course we use our judgement every day. It's necessary, instinctive and often valuable. But it is possible to agree to disagree with friends. Isn't that what friendship is all about? I think it would be difficult for most of us to have any friends at all, if this wasn't the case. Unless you're suggesting that we should agree on every issue with every friend that we have. Personally, I don't think this is realistic, and not my idea of friendship at all. That's just being a "yes man".
I would judge my premie friends as being misguided, (IMO) but I would also have to accept that may be, for reasons that may be impossible for me to understand, that K is right for them, (shock horror!) in some way. And I don't tell them what to wear or eat either, or how to live their lives.
Seriously, would you investigate all the atrocities of the XYZ Church since the year dot, and then argue with any XYZ friend or associate you may have, citing all the reasons why they are wrong (in your opinion) to be a practising XYZ? Of course not! Well, I wouldn't have thought so....., but I could be wrong!!
Expremies who have do not have premie friends, are not put in this position. May be you don't have any premie friends, so you haven't had to deal with it. I have put my friendships first, then M/premiedom/K/Catholic/Jew, second, or may be even last. Depending on my mood.
