Hi 13,
Your post is as big and full and real as the world you and your family travelled.
"So it's really tragic, a parent molesting a child. So much is broken and lost."
In a rare moment, I wrote about it once:
"Ask me right now, and I'll tell you these are two of the most beautiful people on the planet.
All the while coping with molestation. It changes you in so many ways that you don't even know about. Nature's way of compensating for deep emotional wounds that you're not even aware of until the effects surface throughout the course of a lifetime. Shot off in a radically altered trajectory. You have no sense of "normalcy" or "normal" emotional stability as a benchmark for comparison. You just do the best you can. That's why it's a crime. And it's likely worse for Hansi because of the unimaginable environment he was raised in. Like so many others, he likely shoulders the burden of concealing those wounds along with much more than anyone can imagine."
