Andries,

You minimize the issues of sexual abuse/assault with the words you use.  You aren't getting it and it's showing.

Mary Garden posted here around the time her book was published. She was her guru's sexual slave.  That's rape, bubba, and he didn't "advise her" he forced her to have an abortion, if my memory serves.  Rape was the term she used.  She also used it when talking about spiritual abuse -- she preferred to call it spiritual rape.