Andries,

I just lost my post above when I went to edit it but now I think it's best I don't talk to you anymore, or at least not for a while.  Reading your lack of sensitivity and outright ignorance of the issues about sexual assault and child sexual abuse often makes me want to skewer you because I see red.

That you don't get the power imbalance between an premie woman and the avatar speaks volumes to your ignorance of the dynamics of sexual predation.

I guess it's just best for me to keep my big mouth shut rather than risk commiting vivisection on you as Paddy accuses.  You need to educate yourself more about the issue of child sexual abuse and adult survivors.  I recommend you talk to some child abuse survivor advocates person to person.  Reading books helps, but to get the real gist of what's it's like you need to talk to people who have lived through it and understand the issues as well.  And don't expect to get the graphic and gory details because those are none of your business.  Just them telling you it happened is enough.

Cynthia