And I am getting the feeling that maybe there's more I still don't know.

What I can offer is a little bit about the person.  He was always ready to help someone.  He'd go to great lengths, driving for hours or whatever it took.

He was entertaining to talk with.  He was funny intelligent and kindly but a bit scratched up - like, oh well picture one of those cartooned tom cats who has been electrified. 

His father was the captain of a group of commandos surviving at large on that island which the Japanese took.  When he took off for WA I remember thinking it's like he is channelling his father.  He was entirely impervious to reason.

The last I knew before that phone call, he was still mainly involved in helping one of his daughters, and he was doing fine but still early in the exiting process from an emotional standpoint.  I didn't know about his involvement with other exes at the time at all, much more going on than I realised.

But I did know he was being subjected to the experience of Rawat's disapproval due to the article and at that point I became very concerned that he had lost touch with his feelings.  

With hindsight he is maybe a bit less kind and a bit more feral than I imagined.  And I might be a bit dumber because how could he have written the article Blinded by the Light anyway other than with the help of other exes.