yes I am well, tho I have a sore shoulder, boy did it hurt but so much better this morning.  

Yeah it was brave of her, having an affair, that she did.  But other than that, who was making all the choices? 

She might be 8 years older than him and considerably taller, but he will have been manipulating her from the start.  Her feeling, the strength of her own good character turned against her.

Marriage to a cult leader has to come with a bit more punch than most marriages to narcissists don't you think?   

Isolated, elevated beyond her peers - goodness knows what it felt like to believe she should feel a maternal responsibility to the people around her when maybe she'd just rather be their friends.

It is not really possible to view your partner objectively from inside a marriage - like being in a cult - you need emotional detachment, no matter the distance or time.

Stay close long enough tho and self preservation kicks in and delivers the detachment - you turn away, but that is only the start - not everyone gets away.  For many people the odds stacked against that are too great or even overwhelming.

It must have seemed like a fairytale coming true when she married Rawat but it never ever was and she has had to come to terms with that without the luxury of leaving it behind her.

I just think worst job on the paddock - marriage to Rawat.