well, as Roark pointed out down the page, we do have these urges - we're a rude and thrusting lot really, so good manners and respect, being cooperative goes very nicely alongside it.  

I have the same feeling - all are equal, wanting to be considerate - it's a genuine and obviously sensible way of being - lebensraum is the german word.  room to live.  but if my last tenant taught me anything it is to recognise how quickly and efficiently that can be taken advantage of and be careful.

I could not agree more (and I thought that was a lovely phrase of yours), I want to feel my whole self listening first.