Hi Angela, nice to see you here. I'm sorry but I just can't stop thinking that if it were only the religious cult beliefs then emotionally speaking he would have been willing and able to exit when he formed his relationship with you. so why didn't he. at least emotionally speaking. that's the question.
In my own marriage it took me the longest time to realise that the walls and the lack of affection were his choice not accidental. well choice, a way of life anyway.
We were both already premies when we met and he left without talking about it at all and so that was strange for me particularly after I left too. Why didn't you tell me, I asked him. The way that he was, it was much less affected by his cult beliefs than I was.